God is love and so are you. When you say to your friend' I love you " Ask yourself how much do you love that friend of yours. Would you take a bullet for him, would you be there for him when he is in deep trouble, would you tell him honestly what do you think about him, and about his actions, would you save him from a bad situation, would you try to help him to get out of troubles and prevent him from deeper challenges. If your answer is" I love him but what he does with his life it's his business not mine." Than I will tell you don't really love him. Don't lie to yourself and lie to him. We are here on earth to watch each other's back and to help each other to succeed, to be happy and to feel responsible for each other's falls and successes. What happened to us, what happened to humanity...If your friend asked you for some money, because he can't pay his rent,what will you do? Will you lecture him to find a job, or will you give him some money and help him to find a job, or will you ignore him and say "Im barely making it too". And if this the case, than try to find someone that can help him, do your best for your friend and he will feel loved even if you were not able to help him much. God knows your heart and the more you want to help, the more he will give you to help and the more you will be able to help and this is what called LOVE.