Those who abuse others are immature, and those who allow themselves to be abused lack self worth and confidence. If a man or woman is not willing to treat others respectfully then they do not truly love someone and they want to control others instead. Physical violence and verbal abuse are signs that a person is not a mature adult, instead they are emotionally still a child who has never learned appropriate ways to vent rage and frustration. If a woman or a man is being abused it is difficult to find the strength to walk away, but you can not change an abuser. This change needs to come from within the person and can not be initiated by others. The best thing you can do when someone starts to abuse you is to walk away from the situation and let them know that you deserve love, respect, and compassion.
How could you forgive someone who backstabbed you. Well you really can't without the help of God. Our human nature is to egocentric to be able to forgive anyone, but God's Spirit can overcome any human weakness. And so you just have to ask God to help you forgive that person. And you ask God, until you forgive to the point that you even pray for that person. You are going to tell me, I don't want to think about that person who did wrong to me and pray for him. Well, in order to really find out if you have forgiven that person pray for him. If you can't then you have not forgiven him. You sill are holding a grudge..a human being can full himself many times. Just pray a few times you don't need to do it for the rest of your life, just enough to know if you have truly forgiven that person. Because many of us, including myself may think that we have forgiven someone, but in reality thinking about them still makes us feel angry, sad, frustrated, etc..But if you think about them and you feel love, peace and just a letting go feeling of frustration and anger toward that person, than you have truly forgiven that person. Why is it that important to forgive? Because you need to set yourself free from the pain that they have inflicted on you. Otherwise you will carry that pain and it will drag you down. When you let go, and let God be the judge and be the one that will take care of the wrong doing of people, than you feel free. You have crushed that evil spirit that doesn't want you to move on and focus on the right people in your life and the important things that you need to do to achieve your goals and dreams. Remember forgiving doesn't mean you approved what they did, and it doesn't mean that you choose to still be in their lives; it just means that you refuse to hold on to any negative emotions in your heart. You deserve to feel free and you deserve to feel happy and peaceful; forgiveness is an essential key to the road of peace, love and success.
You need to always be true to yourself and to others. Sometimes it's through situations that your realize this is not what you want to do, or this is not a person that you want to be with. It's o.k to experience new situations and to meet new people and its also o.k. to have old friends that you grew up with, but what's not o.k. it's when you don't share the same values anymore, or when you realize that they don't know who you are and you need to fake it to be accepted with those people. Don't sell yourself short, you may have to just move on and let go of the people that don't want to know you as a person and don't accept you as who you are. The most important thing is to be honest with yourself because if you are not, you will loose yourself and feel lost in a crowd of people.
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