Backstabbing friends are worse than enemies, because you expect betrayal from your enemies but not those who you have drawn in close and cherish. These friends will take advantage of your goodness, exploit all of your weaknesses, and show no loyalty when this trait is called for.These individuals will be nice and friendly to your face, and then spread rumors and gossip or trash you to others when you are not around. As soon as you discover the true spirit of this type of person it is important to excise them from your life completely otherwise they can do great harm.
We hear often you need to forgive the ones that hurt you. It's not easy to forgive someone who has affected your life, because of their mistakes. What you are not realizing is that God allowed it for a reason. Anything that happens in your life is allowed by God, if He did not want you to meet that person or to live that challenge He would have stopped it. If God allowed you to meet that person or to have a dad that was not there for you or a mom that had issues and was not there for you emotionally it's because you needed that person to make you stronger, to be able to forgive and to let go of all this baggage. Everyone has been hurt by someone, what makes a difference between 2 people is their reaction to it. Are you going to carry the pain or do you decide to let go of it, and set yourself free. Forgiveness does not mean that you approve of their mistakes, it only means that you decide not to be hurt anymore by that person, and you let go of that pain. They will never have control over you anymore when you let go of the negative emotions. As long as you hold a grudge, you are holding on to pain, when you let go and decide that you are not the one who need to punish that person, that it's God's job to do so and you let go of the hurt, pain, anger, sadness that they left you with, you set yourself free and now you are free to follow your dreams. Having anger, being sad, being depressed, being an anxious person will never get you to your dreams. You have to let go of all those negatives emotions to be able to focus on your dreams. The more you let go, the more you feel you are getting closer to your goals and dreams. Love, spread peace and forgive.
How could you forgive someone who backstabbed you. Well you really can't without the help of God. Our human nature is to egocentric to be able to forgive anyone, but God's Spirit can overcome any human weakness. And so you just have to ask God to help you forgive that person. And you ask God, until you forgive to the point that you even pray for that person. You are going to tell me, I don't want to think about that person who did wrong to me and pray for him. Well, in order to really find out if you have forgiven that person pray for him. If you can't then you have not forgiven him. You sill are holding a grudge..a human being can full himself many times. Just pray a few times you don't need to do it for the rest of your life, just enough to know if you have truly forgiven that person. Because many of us, including myself may think that we have forgiven someone, but in reality thinking about them still makes us feel angry, sad, frustrated, etc..But if you think about them and you feel love, peace and just a letting go feeling of frustration and anger toward that person, than you have truly forgiven that person. Why is it that important to forgive? Because you need to set yourself free from the pain that they have inflicted on you. Otherwise you will carry that pain and it will drag you down. When you let go, and let God be the judge and be the one that will take care of the wrong doing of people, than you feel free. You have crushed that evil spirit that doesn't want you to move on and focus on the right people in your life and the important things that you need to do to achieve your goals and dreams. Remember forgiving doesn't mean you approved what they did, and it doesn't mean that you choose to still be in their lives; it just means that you refuse to hold on to any negative emotions in your heart. You deserve to feel free and you deserve to feel happy and peaceful; forgiveness is an essential key to the road of peace, love and success.
When you feel lonely, it's when you want to reach out to someone to talk about your problems and challenges and you have no one to turn to. You feel like no one around you really will understand what you are going through. And you sink into a deeper feeling of emptiness. Often when you move to another city or state, you don't know anyone yet you feel you are like a drop in the ocean. Loneliness occurs also when you go through separation or divorce. Another reason is what you say to yourself that may lead you to loneliness. If you keep saying, no one really will understand my darkest side, or who can really handle me, when I can't really handle myself, or you say to yourself I will never meet someone who understands me. Your mind is your biggest enemy to your well-being if you don't train it well. So you can start by saying, I will meet new people that will have the same interests, that will understand me because they are going through the same thing or they have been through the challenges, I will go out there and meet new people and do activities to connect with others, I will soon find my new friend and new family that have the same spirit and that will love me for who I am with my imperfections. I will love and be loved again. No matter where you are or what situation you are going through if you start by changing your way of thinking you will start seeing miracles. God will send you the people who deserve you.You just have to turn to Him and ask Hime to help you to find your way again. Until then you are never alone, God is with you.