Acceptance is the key to a real and lasting love, no matter what type of relationship is involved. When you accept others in spite of their imperfections then you show compassion and a sense of emotional maturity. Accepting things that you can not change does not make you less of a person, it strengthens you and makes you a better person instead. Fighting against the things that can not be changed will tire you out and raise your stress levels each day. Acceptance allows you to make peace with yourself, and to see others as they truly are and still care about them in spite of these faults and shortcomings. There will always be circumstances that can not be changed and when you accept these you will find that you are happier and enjoy less stress.
What does it mean to accept your past and present events. Can you really accept seeing your friend being shot on the street in front of you. Can you really accept your dad being in prison because of a crime that he did not commit, can your really accept that your girlfriend cheated on you and even though you still love her, you had to let her go. And then you may ask yourself if God really existed you would not go through those events; He would not allow it. Think twice, who are you to know how God works with us, who are you to judge Him, who are you to really understand God and why He is allowing things to happen or not to happen. Did you ever think that God wants your love, your heart, your faith and your trust in Him. You are going to tell me:"Well He is doing everything wrong to make me still believe in Him, He is taking away the people that I would have died for, He is making me suffer, how can I trust Him, when he has taken away all the people that I have loved and cared about." I don't know all the answer of why God allows things to happen. But one thing for sure I know that no matter what is going on in your life, God loves you. Every time you suffer, and feel deep pain in your heart and blood coming out of it, God wants you to rely on Him, He is allowing things to happen so you can rely only on Him and go into His arms, so you can start to feel His love for you. when you do so He will heal your pain. I can only write about my own experience, and I know that when He took away people that I loved dearly, I would just go and cry in His arms and of course ask Him why, but many times He would tell me "Don't ask why Nancy just do what your supposed to do and one day I may reveal to you why, but until then I'm testing you, I want to know how much you love me, and how much you would do for me, even if I take you away from everyone that you ever knew and take everything you ever possessed. I still want you to have faith in me and grow strong, because without suffering you will never reach the deepest feelings of love. You can't love unconditionally if you have not suffered first. You can't find out who you really are if you have never lost. You can't find out who your really love if you have never loved. You can't find out your purpose and why you were brought up in this life, if you have never lost any belongings. You can't help others from your heart if your are protected and shielded from sufferings. You can't connect with the pain of others that have lost if you never felt the same pain. All the suffering that you are going through is to transform you into a spiritual being, so you can be able to do your purpose on this Earth and you can show others what is unconditional love." So don't ask God why, ask God to give you the strength to become the person that He wants you to become, to help you detach from this world and become Love. All what you can say to God is "God you allowed it to happen, it means that I need to accept it, and make the best out of what I have. And if I have nothing God, I know I have you in my life and you will direct me or redirect me into the path now that I need to take. Maybe that event is going to make me take a decision that will get me on the right path, the one I am destine to be on. And when I am strong and I become the person you want me to become, I will go back to that neighborhood, I will go back to the family that lost a son, I will go back and visit my dad in prison and I will make a difference and spread love and peace. When you grow strong and achieve some of your dreams, don't forget where you came from and help lift up the people that are living now what you have lived in the past.
When you feel lonely, it's when you want to reach out to someone to talk about your problems and challenges and you have no one to turn to. You feel like no one around you really will understand what you are going through. And you sink into a deeper feeling of emptiness. Often when you move to another city or state, you don't know anyone yet you feel you are like a drop in the ocean. Loneliness occurs also when you go through separation or divorce. Another reason is what you say to yourself that may lead you to loneliness. If you keep saying, no one really will understand my darkest side, or who can really handle me, when I can't really handle myself, or you say to yourself I will never meet someone who understands me. Your mind is your biggest enemy to your well-being if you don't train it well. So you can start by saying, I will meet new people that will have the same interests, that will understand me because they are going through the same thing or they have been through the challenges, I will go out there and meet new people and do activities to connect with others, I will soon find my new friend and new family that have the same spirit and that will love me for who I am with my imperfections. I will love and be loved again. No matter where you are or what situation you are going through if you start by changing your way of thinking you will start seeing miracles. God will send you the people who deserve you.You just have to turn to Him and ask Hime to help you to find your way again. Until then you are never alone, God is with you.
It doesn't matter where you come from, which family you were born from, who are the people that are surrounding you, where do you live, what is your financial situation, you can be in the desert, by yourself completely with little water and little sun, and still you can bloom like a nice beautiful flower. In other words what matters is you. Your beliefs, your dreams, your goals, you as a person, that's what really matters for God. You are going to ask me, "its's not enough me, who am I to be successful like the ones that I look up to. I can never be like that singer, or that inspirational coach, or like that real estate guru." And I will tell you:" you can be whoever you want to be. You are in a form of a seed, and the ones that inspires you and are successful are already in a form of a flower. They were looking like you, like a simple small seed easy to crash and easy to loose, but they did the actions, and they believed in their dreams, and if you look where they come from...a lot of them were from the bottom..just like you. You can choose to do the work and follow the steps they did to become a beautiful flower, and be successful or you can choose to not do anything and not believe in your dreams and be that seed that will never grow; stay in the dirt and maybe lost forever. It's your life, you have to own it, you have to look into your heart see what is it longing for, listen to that inside voice that is telling you what are the next steps to achieve your small and big goals. And feed it, feed that seed of your dreams, give it the water and the sun it needs. If you are lucky you will have friends and family to support you, but if you are in the desert and you don't feel anyone will understand your dreams then information is out there now to grab what you need and self-learn, you can go to seminars, take classes, make connections..there are so many open doors you just got to make the decision to enter in them. Also, change your beliefs, make them positive, hopeful and strong, have faith that God is standing next to you when no one else is, and have faith that He will pour the water and give you what you need if he sees your doing the work. Whatever excuses you are giving yourself not to follow your dreams, is just a wall that you put around yourself and this attitude will never set you free. Break free, work on yourself, follow the ones that inspires you, do what they did, a lot of times you don't need to reinvent the wheel, you only need to start; making the decisions that one day you will become a flower and that you will start today doing the first step toward it.
When we look at a tree, we overlook how long it took to grow, to become strong, to have leafs, and to be fruitful. Why are we expecting when we start working toward our goals for us to grow fast magically and produce fruits that people would want to eat from. It takes time, it takes a lot of digging first, a lot of dirt work, to plant the seed and than it takes a lot of water, a lot of good food, a lot of nutrition and a lot of sun. If one of those ingredients are missing the tree will not grow strong and standing tall and mighty. So how do you measure if you are growing in a good rhythm not too slow and not too fast. By how you feel. If you feel happy everyday and feel right about what you do toward your goals than you are already successful and you are growing strong. Also, if you see the growth within; meaning you feel each day you have learned something new, or you have become aware of something you were not aware of before..when you see spiritual, emotional, physical, intellectual growth each day in your life, than keep doing what you are doing, you are in the right path and you only need now to be patient. But if you do actions and it doesn't feel right, you feel you are not learning anything knew anymore, you feel like you are stuck in a dead-end, you don't feel happy in the morning, you don't feel any growth, than you need to change your goals, or the direction that you are taking; the steps and actions that you are taking. Always reevaluate what you are doing everyday and see if it's leading you to a growth or to stagnation. May God give you wisdom and lead you to the right path for your happiness, strength and success.
We say the word love often and sometimes we don't say it at all. If only we can know what is truly unconditional love, feel it deeply into our soul, body, mind and spirit, the world would be a magical place to live in. But we abuse that word, we throw it easily at people, we use it to our advantage, we keep that word to ourself, we don't use it the right way until one day it hits you. And you start understanding what is unconditional love. It's love that comes from God. And when you start being close to him, you start feeling His unconditional love that He has for you. Only then, you start feeling love for yourself, and you say to yourself"I am loved by God, my Creator no matter what I do, no matter what I say, no matter who I am, God loves me, because He is my Father and any father loves his son even though he may do mistakes, even though his son doesn't love himself, even though his son is not treating others well, he is still his son and The Father will always love him" And you may say, well if God loves me, I would not be suffering and God will answer to you. "I will discipline you when you don't do right, I will teach you lessons when you do mistakes, and I will guide you to the right away, and I will not prevent obstacles in your way, because you sometimes need to learn when you experience., its the only way you can grow, be strong and do what you are supposed to do on earth. But have faith my son, that I will always love you unconditionally and if you come into my arms when you are struggling I will comfort you and show you the way." Believe, feel, and know that God loves you unconditionally when you do so you will become LOVE and you will start loving yourself and start loving others.