A real man understands the difference between what looks cool and what is cool. Clothing, fast cars, and other material possessions do not show the true measure of a man, these only show his insecurities or shortcomings. A true man understands compassion as well as strength, and they are not afraid to show a softer side at times. The way that a man takes care of his family and other responsibilities without having to be told to, because this is the right thing to do in a world that seems to reward instant gratification instead of hard work and integrity. Real men understand patience and treat their loved ones with respect, never using physical violence or threats in order to control others. Lying, cheating, and stealing do not show true strength, these are the traits of boys who have never grown into mature men in the first place.