The act of apologizing makes a person better and allows them to be magnanimous, while those who are too stubborn or egotistical to apologize show their true inner measure. Many believe that apologizing for a wrong that they have committed or feelings that they have hurt means they are less of a person but the exact opposite is actually true. Apologizing means that they have realized their mistakes and want to rectify the situation. Everyone makes mistakes as we go through life and apologizing is the mature way to handle these errors. This shows an inner strength that immature individuals are lacking and that reflects true growth as a person.
We hear often you need to forgive the ones that hurt you. It's not easy to forgive someone who has affected your life, because of their mistakes. What you are not realizing is that God allowed it for a reason. Anything that happens in your life is allowed by God, if He did not want you to meet that person or to live that challenge He would have stopped it. If God allowed you to meet that person or to have a dad that was not there for you or a mom that had issues and was not there for you emotionally it's because you needed that person to make you stronger, to be able to forgive and to let go of all this baggage. Everyone has been hurt by someone, what makes a difference between 2 people is their reaction to it. Are you going to carry the pain or do you decide to let go of it, and set yourself free. Forgiveness does not mean that you approve of their mistakes, it only means that you decide not to be hurt anymore by that person, and you let go of that pain. They will never have control over you anymore when you let go of the negative emotions. As long as you hold a grudge, you are holding on to pain, when you let go and decide that you are not the one who need to punish that person, that it's God's job to do so and you let go of the hurt, pain, anger, sadness that they left you with, you set yourself free and now you are free to follow your dreams. Having anger, being sad, being depressed, being an anxious person will never get you to your dreams. You have to let go of all those negatives emotions to be able to focus on your dreams. The more you let go, the more you feel you are getting closer to your goals and dreams. Love, spread peace and forgive.
How could you forgive someone who backstabbed you. Well you really can't without the help of God. Our human nature is to egocentric to be able to forgive anyone, but God's Spirit can overcome any human weakness. And so you just have to ask God to help you forgive that person. And you ask God, until you forgive to the point that you even pray for that person. You are going to tell me, I don't want to think about that person who did wrong to me and pray for him. Well, in order to really find out if you have forgiven that person pray for him. If you can't then you have not forgiven him. You sill are holding a grudge..a human being can full himself many times. Just pray a few times you don't need to do it for the rest of your life, just enough to know if you have truly forgiven that person. Because many of us, including myself may think that we have forgiven someone, but in reality thinking about them still makes us feel angry, sad, frustrated, etc..But if you think about them and you feel love, peace and just a letting go feeling of frustration and anger toward that person, than you have truly forgiven that person. Why is it that important to forgive? Because you need to set yourself free from the pain that they have inflicted on you. Otherwise you will carry that pain and it will drag you down. When you let go, and let God be the judge and be the one that will take care of the wrong doing of people, than you feel free. You have crushed that evil spirit that doesn't want you to move on and focus on the right people in your life and the important things that you need to do to achieve your goals and dreams. Remember forgiving doesn't mean you approved what they did, and it doesn't mean that you choose to still be in their lives; it just means that you refuse to hold on to any negative emotions in your heart. You deserve to feel free and you deserve to feel happy and peaceful; forgiveness is an essential key to the road of peace, love and success.