Those who abuse others are immature, and those who allow themselves to be abused lack self worth and confidence. If a man or woman is not willing to treat others respectfully then they do not truly love someone and they want to control others instead. Physical violence and verbal abuse are signs that a person is not a mature adult, instead they are emotionally still a child who has never learned appropriate ways to vent rage and frustration. If a woman or a man is being abused it is difficult to find the strength to walk away, but you can not change an abuser. This change needs to come from within the person and can not be initiated by others. The best thing you can do when someone starts to abuse you is to walk away from the situation and let them know that you deserve love, respect, and compassion.