Heartbreak, how are you ever supposed to get over it? One minute you’re blissfully in love, and the next minute you’re eating ice cream and watching sappy movies. Thankfully, you aren’t going to love one person in your lifetime. You can move forward and find the next love of your life. You don’t have to give up hope because love is literally around the next corner.
It can be difficult to trust the process, and you might be jaded. I think that it’s normal to carry-on baggage of your failed relationships. However, the minute you meet your next love, you throw your suitcases to the wind. There will be that person that makes your breath stop, and you’ll forget why you were ever jaded about love in the first place. You’ll forget all about the person that broke your heart, and you’ll focus on having a future with someone else.
Here are 10 reasons why you should forward to your second love, oftentimes more than your first.
1) You’re a stronger person
Yes, it’s true that your heart comes back stronger. It isn’t just your heart though; your character is stronger as well. You’ve lived through love, and now you know more about the person you are. Once you have healed from your heartbreak, you are wiser and more complex than when you started. When you fall in love again, it shows you that you’re stronger than you ever imagined. You’ve fallen for someone, meaning that even after your heart was broken, you allowed someone the opportunity to come back in.
2) You have renewed hope.
Even if you’re heartbroken right now, you can still remember how much fun it is to fall in love. Second love teaches you that there are still good people out there, and that fuels your hope. Everything is no longer bitter and gray, and you can start to fantasize about a new future. You no longer worry about being alone, because you have fallen in love with someone else.
3) You’re braver with your second love.
You could have chosen to spend the rest of your life alone, but you decided to try again. You’ve forgiven yourself, forgiven your ex, and you’re ready to move on. You know what happened the first time, and you’re still moving forward with an entirely new person. The best part about it, is if your second love doesn’t work, you can focus on your third love.
4) You start to think that things happen for a reason.
Sure, you thought that you were going to be with your ex forever. But, if you were still with your ex then you couldn’t have met your second love. In fact, your ex was standing in the way of you finding a healthier relationship. You’ve licked your wounds, and you’re healthier after a breakup. You’re no longer smitten with your ex, so you can really evaluate why it didn’t work out. You see that everything moves in cycles, and you’re in a new cycle in your life.
5) Your second love is more rational.
Since you’ve had your failures with your first love, you know what to look for when you find your second love. You no longer just run off lust, in fact, you look for more qualities. Generally, if you’ve learned from your first love, your second love will be healthier than your first experience. Now, you listen to your head and your heart, instead of just walking blindly into love.
6) You have a more adult connection.
We mentioned that you’re more rational, which means that your partner is more rational too. You can start considering a future instead of just living in the moment. Since most people have second loves later in life, the entire relationship is more serious from the very beginning. You both have previous love experience that you bring into the relationship, which is why second love is a wiser love.
7) You’re someone’s choice.
Yes, this seems pretty self-explanatory, but it is always nice to be wanted. So, revel in the fact that someone has chosen to be with you. Technically this is your second love, but you’re someone’s first choice. This is the first time that you have ever been together, so you should make it special.
8) You are comfortable.
Second love reminds you what it is like to feel secure with someone, especially after someone has left you in the past. You begin to think of your second love as home, and you have someone who is excited to welcome you back. Although your first love ended and had negative traits, your second love will make you feel shiny and new.
9) You feel selfless
You value your partner and relationship more, which means you are more selfless. You are more interested in making your second love work, which is why you are less focused on yourself. Your partner should also be selfless as well, so you should both have a better relationship.
10) It feels different.
Your second love isn’t like your first love, and that’s a good thing. Anytime you fall in love you’re going to have different experiences. No two people are the same, so why would two relationships be the same? That should excite you, because that means your second love probably won’t end up like your first. You will have some similarities in your relationship, because you’re the same person, but your new partner will add differences.
So, now that you have had a first and second love, what do you think about both of them? Do you feel more blessed in your second relationship than your first? Even if you have to go to a third love, remember that everything happens for a reason, and you’re getting stronger through each new relationship!
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